Jul 25 2011
My Journey As A Mom…
whether you have followed me through my footsteps in the blogosphere or just happen to surf onto this site, welcome. 
i’m currently a stay-at-home-mom, with a girl who’s almost hitting her terribly terrific twos… and in these two wonderful years of SAHMotherhood, i’ve seriously gone from zero, to the hero(ine) in my girl’s eyes… from a “nobody-is-indispensable” person, to a “totally-indispensable” being in my girl’s world.
but despite the joys of being able to be around to witness our little one’s baby step growth, you know what all SAHMs have to go through? apart from the usual motherhood duties of feeding / bathing / caring etc – even throwing in some home-schooling – we also have to face a constant question of :- so when are you sending your kid to childcare or getting a maid so you can go back to work?
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this, my dear friend, is the reason why i’m starting this new blog.
i want to tell people that in my list of priorities, it is NOT a sacrifice to give up work and be a SAHM. but that it is the other way around if i had to sacrifice my girl to go back to the office.
i want to tell people in my world now, i am working. i’m working towards building and shaping my daughter’s character so she grows up righteous, courteous, brave and strong. i’m working towards my daughter’s happiness so she knows her mommy and the whole family is always around for her whenever she wants or needs us, no matter what happens. i’m working towards a better family too cos… let’s just say from past experience, i tend to immerse myself into my office work too much that i end up not eating / sleeping / spending precious time with the family…
i did love working back in the office. but until the day i learn to compartmentalize my time and energy properly such that i don’t neglect my girl and my family as i work… and until the day my girl really doesn’t need me around that much anymore… i will choose to be a SAHM, or WAHM, and be proud of it. money? i’ll freelance or part-time whatever comes my way. what is just a few short vital years as i dedicate myself towards teaching my girl, compared to decades of potential white collar-ed life?
and while my past blogs have always been about me growing up as a person… this will be dedicated to my daughter, shared with everyone out there. as much as i have gained strength and knowledge from others out there, i’m giving back by sharing my journey with my little one to lend strength and support back to other mothers too.
if you’re a full-time working mom, i’m envious that you could manage both family and work effectively. if you’re a SAHM like me, i’m proud of you too for choosing to be a mother, a teacher and a maid without seeking much returns.
if you’re a mommy, be proud of me too.
I agree wholeheartedly! People have been asking me when I’m going to go to work but it just doesn’t feel right for us! I would be miserable leaving my daughter and I’d rather live on a tight budget any day.
Thks for sharing your journey. Indeed it is a joy to see how our little babies grow and develop – they grow up so fast and I’m glad I am able to capture most those precious moments. Enjoy + continue your good work in the life of your daughter and those dear to u. Cheers
well said! I totally agree with every word! and yes, I’m proud of you and proud of myself for being SAHM! It’s definitely the best job in the world! =)
Thanks Summer.
It’d be the best job if someone actually pays us for it! Haha…
hi..i will go to Osaka next month. can i hv some tips from u since i read from ur blog, u just coming back from there.. btw, i will going with my infant baby (11month) for vacation (1week).
Hi Mohd, sure! You’re targeting the sakura season?
Hi, I came across & read your blog. I really admire your passion to your daughter. Now temporarily a stay home mom with my daughter(2nd), I almost forgot how stress I was as a full time working mom to my son(1st). The schools here are quite expensive. Can I ask your advice for picking a school for a three year old? Thanks.
Hi and thanks for coming by!
You are right… the schools here are SUPER expensive. I lamented to my husband that my university school fees are even cheaper than my girl’s childcare!
I had hit and misses with preschool/childcare. Each time I went school-hunting, I’d bring my girl to the place, and see if she’s comfortable there. At this specific school we ended up signing with, she happily joined in the class while the principal brought us about to look at the facilities and curriculum. This was the important sign that we were looking for to know that she was comfortable with the physical environment, the teachers, and that the activities were engaging enough to keep her from always wanting to stick with us. At 3 year old, they are also better able to verbalise their emotions so we asked for her comments/comparisons after each visit to see what was her choice.
Lucky for us, the final decision was near the daddy’s office so at least accessibility wise it’s still manageable.
It’s really not easy… But I hope you find the perfect one soon!